Jefferson loved two women in his life… and lost them both. To deal with the pain of loss and rejection, he looked to his mind- his intellect- to cope.
“The most effectual means of being secure against pain is to retire within ourselves, and to suffice for our own happiness. Those, which depend on ourselves, are the only pleasures a wise man will count on: for nothing is ours which another may deprive us of. Hence the inestimable value of intellectual pleasures. “